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The sorry article is one where that matters less than for, say, the romantic-declaration article, because the structural distinction (dui bu qi for real apology vs bu hao yi si for casual softener) is well documented in the cultural-linguistics literature and well-attested by the Mandarin teachers I have asked. But the fine-grain register calls are still calibration I would not bet on without local input.\n\nThe position the article makes, which I want to underline, is the central point of the whole how-to-say cluster. Politeness vocabulary is the most culturally loaded vocabulary in any language. The English speaker translating sorry into Mandarin reaches for dui bu qi because that is what the textbook offers, and the result is a register that sounds oddly heavy on every small friction. The cultural register Mandarin actually runs on is different. Dui bu qi is reserved for genuine wrongs - real mistakes, real harm, real acknowledgement of fault. Bu hao yi si handles the entire everyday range that English calls sorry: getting attention, brief friction, mild inconvenience, being slightly late, asking for help. Foreign learners using only dui bu qi sound like they are apologising for being alive; foreign learners who pick up bu hao yi si as their default everyday softener immediately sound more comfortable in the language.\n\nThe deeper structural point, which the politeness article makes and which deserves the editorial weight here too: the Mandarin politeness model leans on apologetic acknowledgement of imposition (bu hao yi si, ma fan nin) and on the formal nin in a way that has no direct English equivalent. The Chinese face-saving register also shapes apology in ways English does not have a clean parallel for: indirect acknowledgement of fault, private rather than public apology, delayed rather than immediate. These are not workarounds, they are the system. The right move for a Western learner is to stop treating Mandarin sorry as a translation problem and start treating it as a separate cultural register with its own internal logic.\n",{"type":41,"value":42,"toc":907},"minimark",[43,48,67,72,117,123,126,132,135,157,163,177,180,206,220,223,229,231,257,261,281,283,309,315,319,322,334,349,353,358,377,381,394,398,410,414,428,432,452,455,459,463,489,493,512,528,532,536,553,557,576,580,594,598,620,624,627,633,639,648,652,735,739,801,814,818,821,853,857],[44,45,47],"h1",{"id":46},"how-to-say-sorry-in-mandarin","How to Say Sorry in Mandarin",[49,50,51,52,56,57,60,61,63,64,66],"p",{},"Mandarin has a fundamental distinction in apology vocabulary that English speakers consistently miss: ",[53,54,55],"strong",{},"dui bu qi"," (对不起) is the genuine apology for wrongs, while ",[53,58,59],{},"bu hao yi si"," (不好意思) is the casual politeness softener used for small frictions, getting attention, and minor inconveniences. English collapses both into \"sorry\" and learners who use ",[53,62,55],{}," for everything sound oddly heavy-weighted while learners who use ",[53,65,59],{}," for everything sound oddly informal. This article covers both phrases, the cultural register around apology in Chinese contexts, and the regional variations.",[68,69,71],"h2",{"id":70},"the-two-core-apology-phrases","The two core apology phrases",[73,74,75,91],"table",{},[76,77,78],"thead",{},[79,80,81,85,88],"tr",{},[82,83,84],"th",{},"Situation",[82,86,87],{},"Mandarin",[82,89,90],{},"English approximation",[92,93,94,106],"tbody",{},[79,95,96,100,103],{},[97,98,99],"td",{},"Genuine apology for a wrong",[97,101,102],{},"Dui bu qi (对不起)",[97,104,105],{},"I am sorry",[79,107,108,111,114],{},[97,109,110],{},"Casual softener \u002F minor friction",[97,112,113],{},"Bu hao yi si (不好意思)",[97,115,116],{},"Excuse me \u002F Sorry",[49,118,119,120,122],{},"The mistake English speakers make: defaulting to ",[53,121,55],{}," for everything. Mandarin native speakers use it sparingly and reserve it for genuine wrongs; over-using it reads as overly formal or oddly heavy.",[68,124,102],{"id":125},"dui-bu-qi-对不起",[49,127,128,131],{},[53,129,130],{},"Dui bu qi"," (对不起) - literally \"cannot face you\" or \"unable to face.\" Used for genuine apology when you have actually done something wrong.",[49,133,134],{},"Pronunciation:",[136,137,138,145,151],"ul",{},[139,140,141,144],"li",{},[53,142,143],{},"Dui4"," (dui, fourth tone) - sharp falling.",[139,146,147,150],{},[53,148,149],{},"Bu5"," (bu, neutral tone in this context) - light, unaccented.",[139,152,153,156],{},[53,154,155],{},"Qi3"," (qi, third tone) - falling-rising.",[49,158,159,160,162],{},"Use ",[53,161,55],{}," for:",[136,164,165,168,171,174],{},[139,166,167],{},"Sincere apology for a real wrong.",[139,169,170],{},"Apologising for a substantial mistake.",[139,172,173],{},"Acknowledging fault in a serious matter.",[139,175,176],{},"Apologising in formal contexts where genuine regret is the appropriate register.",[49,178,179],{},"Examples:",[136,181,182,188,194,200],{},[139,183,184,187],{},[53,185,186],{},"Dui bu qi, wo cuo le."," - I am sorry, I was wrong.",[139,189,190,193],{},[53,191,192],{},"Dui bu qi, wo gei nin tian le ma fan."," - I am sorry, I have caused you trouble.",[139,195,196,199],{},[53,197,198],{},"Zhen de dui bu qi."," - I am really sorry.",[139,201,202,205],{},[53,203,204],{},"Fei chang dui bu qi."," - I am extremely sorry.",[49,207,208,209,211,212,215,216,219],{},"The response to ",[53,210,55],{}," is typically ",[53,213,214],{},"mei guan xi"," (没关系) - \"no relation \u002F does not matter\" or ",[53,217,218],{},"mei shi"," (没事) - \"it is nothing.\"",[68,221,113],{"id":222},"bu-hao-yi-si-不好意思",[49,224,225,228],{},[53,226,227],{},"Bu hao yi si"," (不好意思) - literally \"not good meaning,\" but functionally a multi-purpose politeness softener that handles much of what English \"sorry\" and \"excuse me\" cover. This is the phrase English speakers most consistently under-deploy.",[49,230,134],{},[136,232,233,239,245,251],{},[139,234,235,238],{},[53,236,237],{},"Bu4"," (bu, fourth tone normally; shifts to second tone before another fourth tone) - in this phrase \"bu hao\" it stays fourth tone before the third tone \"hao.\"",[139,240,241,244],{},[53,242,243],{},"Hao3"," (hao, third tone).",[139,246,247,250],{},[53,248,249],{},"Yi4"," (yi, fourth tone) - sharp falling.",[139,252,253,256],{},[53,254,255],{},"Si5"," (si, neutral tone) - light.",[49,258,159,259,162],{},[53,260,59],{},[136,262,263,266,269,272,275,278],{},[139,264,265],{},"Getting someone's attention (equivalent to \"excuse me\").",[139,267,268],{},"Apologising for a minor inconvenience.",[139,270,271],{},"Acknowledging that you are taking up someone's time.",[139,273,274],{},"Politely introducing a request.",[139,276,277],{},"Apologising for being late by a small amount.",[139,279,280],{},"Acknowledging a small awkwardness or embarrassment.",[49,282,179],{},[136,284,285,291,297,303],{},[139,286,287,290],{},[53,288,289],{},"Bu hao yi si, qing wen..."," - Excuse me, may I ask...",[139,292,293,296],{},[53,294,295],{},"Bu hao yi si, ma fan nin yi xia."," - Sorry to trouble you a bit.",[139,298,299,302],{},[53,300,301],{},"Bu hao yi si, wo lai wan le."," - Sorry, I am a bit late.",[139,304,305,308],{},[53,306,307],{},"Bu hao yi si, neng bu neng zai shuo yi bian?"," - Sorry, could you say that again?",[49,310,311,312,314],{},"The cultural register: ",[53,313,59],{}," is the friction-softener Mandarin uses constantly. It is not specifically an apology; it is a multi-purpose politeness marker that includes gratitude territory (\"sorry for the trouble\" = thanks) and excuse-me territory (\"excuse me, may I ask?\").",[68,316,318],{"id":317},"the-cultural-distinction","The cultural distinction",[49,320,321],{},"The key conceptual distinction:",[136,323,324,329],{},[139,325,326,328],{},[53,327,130],{}," = \"I have wronged you, please forgive me.\" Serious. Genuine. Used when you have actually done something wrong.",[139,330,331,333],{},[53,332,227],{}," = \"I am slightly embarrassed to take your time \u002F cause this small friction \u002F interrupt you.\" Light. Routine. Used constantly in normal social interaction.",[49,335,336,337,339,340,342,343,345,346,348],{},"Foreign learners often default to ",[53,338,55],{}," because it is the textbook translation of \"sorry.\" But in everyday Mandarin, ",[53,341,59],{}," is used 5-10x more frequently. Restaurants, shops, asking strangers questions, brief friction in crowds - all of these are ",[53,344,59],{}," territory. ",[53,347,130],{}," is for when you have actually wronged the other person.",[68,350,352],{"id":351},"apologising-for-specific-situations","Apologising for specific situations",[354,355,357],"h3",{"id":356},"when-you-are-late","When you are late",[136,359,360,365,371],{},[139,361,362,364],{},[53,363,301],{}," - Sorry, I am a bit late (minor).",[139,366,367,370],{},[53,368,369],{},"Dui bu qi, wo lai wan le."," - I am sorry I am late (more serious).",[139,372,373,376],{},[53,374,375],{},"Zhen de hen bao qian, wo chi dao le."," - I am really sorry, I was late (formal).",[354,378,380],{"id":379},"when-you-have-caused-inconvenience","When you have caused inconvenience",[136,382,383,389],{},[139,384,385,388],{},[53,386,387],{},"Bu hao yi si, ma fan nin le."," - Sorry to trouble you (light).",[139,390,391,193],{},[53,392,393],{},"Dui bu qi, gei nin tian ma fan le.",[354,395,397],{"id":396},"when-you-have-made-an-error","When you have made an error",[136,399,400,404],{},[139,401,402,187],{},[53,403,186],{},[139,405,406,409],{},[53,407,408],{},"Wo de cuo, dui bu qi."," - My mistake, I am sorry.",[354,411,413],{"id":412},"when-you-want-to-take-responsibility","When you want to take responsibility",[136,415,416,422],{},[139,417,418,421],{},[53,419,420],{},"Shi wo de cuo."," - It is my fault.",[139,423,424,427],{},[53,425,426],{},"Wo cheng ren wo de cuo wu."," - I admit my mistake (formal).",[354,429,431],{"id":430},"when-you-are-giving-condolences","When you are giving condolences",[136,433,434,440,446],{},[139,435,436,439],{},[53,437,438],{},"Wo dui ci shen biao yi han."," - I express my regret about this (formal).",[139,441,442,445],{},[53,443,444],{},"Jie ai shun bian."," - Restrain your grief (traditional condolence formula).",[139,447,448,451],{},[53,449,450],{},"Wo gan tong shen shou."," - I feel deeply with you (formal condolence).",[49,453,454],{},"The Chinese condolence register is more formal and less direct than English. Direct expressions of sympathy are less common; the cultural pattern tends toward more reserved formal phrases.",[68,456,458],{"id":457},"intensifiers-and-softeners","Intensifiers and softeners",[354,460,462],{"id":461},"intensifying-apology","Intensifying apology",[136,464,465,471,477,483],{},[139,466,467,470],{},[53,468,469],{},"Zhen de dui bu qi"," (真的对不起) - I am really sorry.",[139,472,473,476],{},[53,474,475],{},"Fei chang dui bu qi"," (非常对不起) - I am extremely sorry.",[139,478,479,482],{},[53,480,481],{},"Wan fen bao qian"," (万分抱歉) - Ten-thousand-fold sorry (very formal).",[139,484,485,488],{},[53,486,487],{},"Shen biao qian yi"," (深表歉意) - Deeply express my apology (formal written).",[354,490,492],{"id":491},"softening-apology-minor-friction","Softening apology \u002F minor friction",[136,494,495,500,506],{},[139,496,497,499],{},[53,498,227],{}," (不好意思) - the universal mild apology.",[139,501,502,505],{},[53,503,504],{},"Bao qian"," (抱歉) - \"embrace regret\" - mid-formal apology.",[139,507,508,511],{},[53,509,510],{},"Bu hao yi si a"," (不好意思啊) - with the casual particle \"a\", even lighter.",[49,513,514,515,518,519,521,522,524,525,527],{},"The phrase ",[53,516,517],{},"bao qian"," sits between ",[53,520,59],{}," and ",[53,523,55],{}," in formality. It is used in business contexts and formal customer service: \"",[53,526,517],{},", wo men de xi tong chu xian le wen ti\" (Sorry, our system has had a problem).",[68,529,531],{"id":530},"regional-variations","Regional variations",[354,533,535],{"id":534},"mainland-china-putonghua","Mainland China (Putonghua)",[136,537,538,545,550],{},[139,539,540,521,542,544],{},[53,541,130],{},[53,543,59],{}," are universal.",[139,546,547,549],{},[53,548,504],{}," is the formal\u002Fwritten apology used in business and customer service.",[139,551,552],{},"Mainland Chinese tend to use apology vocabulary less performatively than Taiwanese speakers; the polite softener register is real but somewhat more measured.",[354,554,556],{"id":555},"taiwan-guoyu","Taiwan (Guoyu)",[136,558,559,565,571],{},[139,560,561,521,563,544],{},[53,562,130],{},[53,564,59],{},[139,566,567,568,570],{},"Taiwanese Mandarin uses ",[53,569,59],{}," more frequently than mainland China across all contexts; Taiwanese politeness register is generally slightly more elaborate.",[139,572,573,575],{},[53,574,504],{}," is used in formal contexts as in mainland China.",[354,577,579],{"id":578},"singapore-huayu","Singapore (Huayu)",[136,581,582,588,591],{},[139,583,584,521,586,544],{},[53,585,130],{},[53,587,59],{},[139,589,590],{},"Code-switching with English (\"sorry\") is extremely common in casual contexts.",[139,592,593],{},"Singapore Mandarin apology vocabulary follows mainland conventions with regional softening.",[354,595,597],{"id":596},"hong-kong","Hong Kong",[136,599,600,610],{},[139,601,602,603,605,606,609],{},"Hong Kong operates primarily in Cantonese. The Mandarin ",[53,604,55],{}," is understood but the local Cantonese ",[53,607,608],{},"deui m juhn"," (對唔住) is the local idiomatic apology.",[139,611,612,613,616,617,619],{},"The Cantonese ",[53,614,615],{},"m goi"," (唔該) handles much of what Mandarin ",[53,618,59],{}," handles - the multi-purpose politeness softener.",[68,621,623],{"id":622},"the-cultural-register-on-apology","The cultural register on apology",[49,625,626],{},"Mandarin apology culture has some specific cultural patterns worth understanding:",[49,628,629,632],{},[53,630,631],{},"Apology is sometimes expressed indirectly."," Direct admissions of fault, particularly in business or formal contexts, can be uncomfortable. The cultural pattern often prefers indirect acknowledgement (\"there was a misunderstanding\") over direct admission of wrong (\"I was wrong\"). Foreign visitors should not interpret indirect responses as evasion; they may be the culturally appropriate way to handle the situation.",[49,634,635,638],{},[53,636,637],{},"Face-saving matters."," Apologies that publicly humiliate the apologiser are culturally awkward. The format of an apology - private vs public, direct vs indirect, immediate vs delayed - is shaped by face considerations. A delayed private apology may be the culturally right move in situations where an immediate public apology would create awkwardness.",[49,640,641,644,645,647],{},[53,642,643],{},"The softener-then-content pattern."," Almost any request in formal Mandarin contexts begins with ",[53,646,59],{}," as a softener. \"Bu hao yi si, qing wen...\" (Excuse me, may I ask...) is the standard opener for requests to strangers. Learning to deploy this opener mark you as comfortable with Chinese politeness conventions.",[68,649,651],{"id":650},"a-few-useful-related-phrases","A few useful related phrases",[73,653,654,667],{},[76,655,656],{},[79,657,658,661,664],{},[82,659,660],{},"Phrase",[82,662,663],{},"Characters",[82,665,666],{},"Meaning",[92,668,669,680,691,702,713,724],{},[79,670,671,674,677],{},[97,672,673],{},"Mei guan xi (没关系)",[97,675,676],{},"没关系",[97,678,679],{},"No matter \u002F no problem",[79,681,682,685,688],{},[97,683,684],{},"Mei shi (没事)",[97,686,687],{},"没事",[97,689,690],{},"It is nothing",[79,692,693,696,699],{},[97,694,695],{},"Bu yao jin (不要紧)",[97,697,698],{},"不要紧",[97,700,701],{},"Not important \u002F no big deal",[79,703,704,707,710],{},[97,705,706],{},"Bie zai yi (别在意)",[97,708,709],{},"别在意",[97,711,712],{},"Do not mind it",[79,714,715,718,721],{},[97,716,717],{},"Wo yuan liang ni (我原谅你)",[97,719,720],{},"我原谅你",[97,722,723],{},"I forgive you",[79,725,726,729,732],{},[97,727,728],{},"Suan le (算了)",[97,730,731],{},"算了",[97,733,734],{},"Forget it \u002F let it go",[68,736,738],{"id":737},"responding-when-someone-apologises-to-you","Responding when someone apologises to you",[73,740,741,754],{},[76,742,743],{},[79,744,745,748,751],{},[82,746,747],{},"Their apology",[82,749,750],{},"Your response",[82,752,753],{},"Translation",[92,755,756,766,775,783,793],{},[79,757,758,760,763],{},[97,759,130],{},[97,761,762],{},"Mei guan xi",[97,764,765],{},"No matter",[79,767,768,770,773],{},[97,769,130],{},[97,771,772],{},"Mei shi",[97,774,690],{},[79,776,777,779,781],{},[97,778,227],{},[97,780,762],{},[97,782,765],{},[79,784,785,787,790],{},[97,786,227],{},[97,788,789],{},"Bu yao jin",[97,791,792],{},"No big deal",[79,794,795,797,799],{},[97,796,504],{},[97,798,762],{},[97,800,765],{},[49,802,803,804,806,807,809,810,813],{},"The casual default response is ",[53,805,214],{}," or ",[53,808,218],{},". ",[53,811,812],{},"Wo yuan liang ni"," (I forgive you) is reserved for actual forgiveness of something meaningful.",[68,815,817],{"id":816},"how-to-actually-internalise-these","How to actually internalise these",[49,819,820],{},"Three practical recommendations:",[822,823,824,836,842],"ol",{},[139,825,826,829,830,832,833,835],{},[53,827,828],{},"Default to bu hao yi si for everyday small friction."," Bumping into someone, asking a stranger for directions, getting attention from a waiter, brief inconveniences - these are all ",[53,831,59],{}," territory, not ",[53,834,55],{},".",[139,837,838,841],{},[53,839,840],{},"Reserve dui bu qi for genuine wrongs."," Use it when you have actually done something wrong - made a mistake, caused harm, missed a commitment. Using it for trivial friction reads as oddly heavy.",[139,843,844,847,848,850,851,835],{},[53,845,846],{},"Pair the apology with mei guan xi when responding."," Practising both sides of the apology exchange (apologising + responding) anchors the appropriate register. When someone says ",[53,849,59],{}," to you, return with ",[53,852,214],{},[68,854,856],{"id":855},"cross-references","Cross-references",[136,858,859,868,877,884,891,900],{},[139,860,861,862,867],{},"The ",[863,864,866],"a",{"href":865},"\u002Fmandarin","Mandarin for adult learners pillar"," covers the wider Mandarin learning approach.",[139,869,861,870,874,875,835],{},[863,871,873],{"href":872},"\u002Fresources\u002Fhow-to-say-thank-you-in-mandarin","how to say thank you in Mandarin article"," covers the gratitude vocabulary that overlaps with ",[53,876,59],{},[139,878,861,879,883],{},[863,880,882],{"href":881},"\u002Fresources\u002Fhow-to-say-hello-in-mandarin","how to say hello in Mandarin article"," covers the greeting register.",[139,885,861,886,890],{},[863,887,889],{"href":888},"\u002Fmandarin\u002Faccents","Mandarin variety guide"," covers the mainland vs Taiwan vs Hong Kong distinction relevant to apology vocabulary.",[139,892,861,893,897,898,835],{},[863,894,896],{"href":895},"\u002Ftools\u002Fmandarin-tones","Mandarin tone trainer"," provides the tone-discrimination practice needed for the third-tone in ",[53,899,55],{},[139,901,861,902,906],{},[863,903,905],{"href":904},"\u002Fresources\u002Fcommon-mistakes-mandarin-english-speakers","common mistakes for English speakers in Mandarin article"," covers register gaps that affect apology interactions.",{"title":908,"searchDepth":909,"depth":909,"links":910},"",2,[911,912,913,914,915,923,927,933,934,935,936,937],{"id":70,"depth":909,"text":71},{"id":125,"depth":909,"text":102},{"id":222,"depth":909,"text":113},{"id":317,"depth":909,"text":318},{"id":351,"depth":909,"text":352,"children":916},[917,919,920,921,922],{"id":356,"depth":918,"text":357},3,{"id":379,"depth":918,"text":380},{"id":396,"depth":918,"text":397},{"id":412,"depth":918,"text":413},{"id":430,"depth":918,"text":431},{"id":457,"depth":909,"text":458,"children":924},[925,926],{"id":461,"depth":918,"text":462},{"id":491,"depth":918,"text":492},{"id":530,"depth":909,"text":531,"children":928},[929,930,931,932],{"id":534,"depth":918,"text":535},{"id":555,"depth":918,"text":556},{"id":578,"depth":918,"text":579},{"id":596,"depth":918,"text":597},{"id":622,"depth":909,"text":623},{"id":650,"depth":909,"text":651},{"id":737,"depth":909,"text":738},{"id":816,"depth":909,"text":817},{"id":855,"depth":909,"text":856},"Methodology",null,"2026-06-05T00:00:00+00:00","How to say sorry in Mandarin Chinese. Dui bu qi, bu hao yi si, the situational differences between sincere apology and casual softener, and regional variations across mainland China, Taiwan and Singapore.","md",[944,947,950,953],{"q":945,"a":946},"What is the difference between dui bu qi and bu hao yi si?","Dui bu qi (literally cannot face you) is the genuine apology for an actual wrong - real mistake, real harm, real acknowledgement of fault. Bu hao yi si (literally not good meaning) is the multi-purpose casual softener for minor friction, getting attention, asking for help, being slightly late, or any small social imposition. English collapses both into sorry; Mandarin uses bu hao yi si five to ten times more often than dui bu qi in everyday speech.",{"q":948,"a":949},"Why do Chinese people say sorry to trouble you when receiving help?","Because Mandarin politeness culture explicitly acknowledges the imposition involved in any request or favour. Ma fan ni le (literally I have troubled you) and bu hao yi si function as gratitude phrases that frame the thanks around the trouble caused rather than around the favour received. There is no clean English equivalent; English thanks the helper, Mandarin acknowledges the cost to the helper. Both are gratitude but they hang on different cultural hooks.",{"q":951,"a":952},"Is it ever rude to say dui bu qi in Mandarin?","Not rude but oddly weighted for trivial friction. Using dui bu qi when you have bumped into someone, missed what was said, or need to get past in a crowd lands as overly heavy because the phrase carries the cultural weight of genuine apology for a wrong. Native speakers use bu hao yi si in those contexts. Reserve dui bu qi for situations where you have actually done something wrong, and your apology register will land more naturally.",{"q":954,"a":955},"What is the standard response when someone apologises to me in Chinese?","Mei guan xi (literally no relation, functionally no problem or it does not matter) is the universal response across all apology registers. Mei shi (it is nothing) is the casual alternative. Bu yao jin (no big deal) is also common. For a substantial apology where you actually do forgive something, wo yuan liang ni (I forgive you) is reserved for the genuinely-forgive-something cases.",{},"\u002Fresources\u002Fmandarin\u002Fhow-to-say-sorry-in-mandarin",{"title":37,"description":941},"resources\u002Fmandarin\u002Fhow-to-say-sorry-in-mandarin",[961,962,963,964],"mandarin phrases","mandarin vocabulary","chinese for beginners","apology","Dui bu qi is the genuine apology for actual wrongs and bu hao yi si is the everyday softener for minor friction and getting attention; English-speaking learners default to dui bu qi for everything and consistently sound oddly heavy, where natives use bu hao yi si five to ten times more often.","nWV9eMwVh8LN7AunnBkhOQButjbYm1figveL7YkEzho",{"left":4,"top":4,"width":5,"height":5,"rotate":4,"vFlip":6,"hFlip":6,"body":968},"\u003Cg fill=\"none\" stroke=\"currentColor\" stroke-linecap=\"round\" stroke-linejoin=\"round\" stroke-width=\"2\">\u003Cpath d=\"M15 12h-5m5-4h-5m9 9V5a2 2 0 0 0-2-2H4\"\u002F>\u003Cpath d=\"M8 21h12a2 2 0 0 0 2-2v-1a1 1 0 0 0-1-1H11a1 1 0 0 0-1 1v1a2 2 0 1 1-4 0V5a2 2 0 1 0-4 0v2a1 1 0 0 0 1 1h3\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Fg>",{"left":4,"top":4,"width":5,"height":5,"rotate":4,"vFlip":6,"hFlip":6,"body":970},"\u003Cg fill=\"none\" stroke=\"currentColor\" stroke-linecap=\"round\" stroke-linejoin=\"round\" stroke-width=\"2\">\u003Cpath d=\"M12 15V3m9 12v4a2 2 0 0 1-2 2H5a2 2 0 0 1-2-2v-4\"\u002F>\u003Cpath d=\"m7 10l5 5l5-5\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Fg>",{"left":4,"top":4,"width":5,"height":5,"rotate":4,"vFlip":6,"hFlip":6,"body":972},"\u003Cpath fill=\"none\" stroke=\"currentColor\" stroke-linecap=\"round\" stroke-linejoin=\"round\" stroke-width=\"2\" d=\"M13 21h8M15 5l4 4m2.174-2.188a1 1 0 0 0-3.986-3.987L3.842 16.174a2 2 0 0 0-.5.83l-1.321 4.352a.5.5 0 0 0 .623.622l4.353-1.32a2 2 0 0 0 .83-.497z\"\u002F>",{"left":4,"top":4,"width":5,"height":5,"rotate":4,"vFlip":6,"hFlip":6,"body":974},"\u003Cg fill=\"none\" stroke=\"currentColor\" stroke-linecap=\"round\" stroke-linejoin=\"round\" stroke-width=\"2\">\u003Crect width=\"18\" height=\"18\" x=\"3\" y=\"3\" rx=\"2\" ry=\"2\"\u002F>\u003Ccircle cx=\"9\" cy=\"9\" r=\"2\"\u002F>\u003Cpath d=\"m21 15l-3.086-3.086a2 2 0 0 0-2.828 0L6 21\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Fg>",{"left":4,"top":4,"width":5,"height":5,"rotate":4,"vFlip":6,"hFlip":6,"body":976},"\u003Cg fill=\"none\" stroke=\"currentColor\" stroke-linecap=\"round\" stroke-linejoin=\"round\" stroke-width=\"2\">\u003Cpath d=\"M6 22a2 2 0 0 1-2-2V4a2 2 0 0 1 2-2h8a2.4 2.4 0 0 1 1.704.706l3.588 3.588A2.4 2.4 0 0 1 20 8v12a2 2 0 0 1-2 2z\"\u002F>\u003Cpath d=\"M14 2v5a1 1 0 0 0 1 1h5M10 9H8m8 4H8m8 4H8\"\u002F>\u003C\u002Fg>",1781519466108]